Swipe Left? Swipe Right?

Dating is weird and hard and awesome all at the same time. As usual, I was talking with my Mom about everything going on in my life and mentioned how large of a role technology plays in my dating life. The verdict is still out on whether this is a good or bad thing, but it’s definitely different.

 Name a dating app and I’ve been on it. Some work better than others in my opinion and not all of them are worth the download. Don’t worry though, I’ll be touching on the four that I’ve tested out to let you know which ones work and which don’t. I’m talking about Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel.

 I think a wide range of people can be found on dating apps. People who are socially awkward and have a hard time getting up the nerve to say something first, people who travel or work a lot and don’t have time to actually go out and meet people, and people like me, who just really don’t know where to meet someone! I don’t want to meet someone at work, I don’t want to meet someone at a bar and I don’t play in any social sports. The only real opportunity for me to meet someone is through mutual friends.

 Also, let me clarify that I am by no means rushing in my search for another person to add to my life. I’m enjoying the single life at the moment, but I am a relationship person and like having someone to share in the adventures and day-to-day stuff. Plus it’s just really nice to meet new people and grow my network of friends in the city.

 Whether you’re looking for someone to stand by your side, some new friends, or just need some good ole fashioned entertainment- all my single people out there raise your hand! This one’s for you.

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We might as well start with the mecca of dating apps, am I right? If you haven’t been living under a rock you know that Tinder is a location based dating app that allows both users to scroll through profiles of individuals close to them. Users can swipe to the left (no thanks) or swipe to the right (yes please) to indicate if they are interested in the other person. If both users swipe right for each other a message is started and they can chat!

 Main pro’s for Tinder are that either party can message first. I really like this because I usually leave it up to the guy to make the first move. Main con for the app is that over time it’s become more of a hook-up app. I’ve also noticed that some updates on the site allow individuals to be shady squirrels. Once you start chatting with someone there’s an option to “unmatch” from that person. I can see a good use for that if someone is aggressively messaging but it’s been used on me when someone I was talking to wanted to continue to use the site and make sure I didn’t know. Tinder has a feature that allows you to see when an individual was last on the app. I wouldn’t want the person I’m dating to go back in and see that I was last on 5 hours ago either. Then again, I’m not shady. 

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 Coffee Meets Bagel is a dating app created by three sisters who saw a need for a female driven app. The app offers one potential match each day at noon for the user to check out. That’s it. One person each day to look at? That’s so weird to me. CMB is also the only dating app I know that makes it almost impossible to use in the free version. You can buy “beans” which provide the user with more people to view each day, but for the free version you get one.

 I didn’t really see any pro’s for this service and the con’s were endless. I just don’t get Coffee Meets Bagel.

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 Ok Cupid is a desktop and mobile dating service that asks deep and thoughtful questions to help pair you with like individuals. I think OKC has my favorite profile out of the four because they have questions pre-loaded that help users get to know more than just surface level information about the people they’re matched with. Through the app users can “like” other individuals and both parties can start a message to get to know each other.

 Although I really liked the Q & A portion of the profile I reallllllly didn’t like that ANYONE could message me. I set up my profile on a week night around 11pm and fell asleep mid answering a question. I woke up to 85 messages from interested individuals. And if you’re wondering, yes, I went through every single one. Only two were people I was remotely interested in. I don’t enjoy that anyone and everyone can reach out to me.

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 A good friend of mine asked recently if I had ever tried Bumble. I hadn’t even heard of it and I’m all about the dating apps, how was that possible? She follows their Instagram account and thought it looked interesting. After two minutes on the app I was thanking her over and over again, because ladies, this app is MY JAM! I jokingly told my friend Michelle that Bumble HAD to have been created by a woman and after doing some research I found that its CEO and Founder is actually a Tinder co-founder and former VP!

 Bumble is very similar to Tinder in its processes and appearance but the major difference is that ONLY the woman can message the guy. Users still match the same way they do on Tinder, mutually liking each other. The female user is notified that a connection was made and that she has 24 hours to message the male before the connection is gone forever. That’s right, 24 hours to think up something creative to say…

 Let me just tell you that I didn’t find an unattractive person until about 25 swipes in. Every single person had a great job, had a witty profile, was attractive and all over the age of 25. I was making heart eyes for days my friends. I still find it incredibly stressful to be the first person to match and REALLY don’t like it, but I’m sucking it up for a great pool of people.

 Dating apps aren’t for everyone and I’ve been burned quite a few times (that’s a story for next week). However, if you want to open yourself to the possibility of finding a partner or just a new friend I recommend you checking out one or all of these!


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  • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

    I hopefully won’t be needing these tips, but I have to say the name Coffee Meet Bagel is so cute, even if it is a sucky app 😉

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