How long is forever?


In order to understand today’s post you need to start by reading THIS.

First, I apologize for the sad nature of the link above. But I feel like it’s an important message that so many people take for granted- time with our loved ones.

Before stumbling upon this post shared by my co-worker I spent five days in Delaware in my childhood home with my family. The days flew by. I woke up early each day, spent time with my family, went to bed late each night and still the time didn’t feel long enough. We packed each day with fun things, games, good meals, good conversation and still the time didn’t feel long enough.

As I pulled out of the driveway to start the trek back to Baltimore I let the tears flow down my face dripping onto my lap. It’s never easy to say goodbye. I thought back to the moments that made up the last few days. I should have eaten at the breakfast table with Dad instead of going back to sleep for a few more hours. I should have told Mom to sit down sooner and taken over in the kitchen so she to could enjoy time with family. I should have hugged my cousins a few extra times and I should have been nicer to my brother (we have that brother/sister love thing going on).

These are small regrets, but recognizing that I don’t know when I will see these people again makes them large regrets.

Considering we are as lucky as possible and live to be 90 years old (as the article mentions) that means I will see my brother about 120 more times. I will see my parents 360 more times (once a month for thirty more years) and I will squeeze my North Carolina cousins 60 more times.

These numbers are based on my current life situation. If I moved to North Carolina next year with my parents in tow those numbers would increase. But I don’t know what life will throw my way and for right now I’m happy with where I am, the job I’m performing and the life I’ve made for myself.

In time as life continues that may change. But for now, I’ll make more of an effort to make memories and cherish my time with every person I love.

As we near the New Year, I challenge you to enjoy the moments and the people you love more. They may be around until we are 90, we may lose them tomorrow, there’s no way of knowing what will happen next. So squeeze those you love a little tighter the next time you see them and love with everything you have. No regrets.

To end on a lighter note I made a few “wait by why” inspired charts based on their calculations:

Until the e.coli scare I was on a solid roll of eating Chipotle at least twice a week. That meant over 6,000 burrito bowls were waiting for me in my lifetime. I think maybe scaling down to once every two weeks would be better…

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I visit the Delaware State Fair once a year and look forward to it. Unless I move home and frequent multiple times during the 10 day run I will walk the grounds 65 more times.

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I try to visit the beach where I grew up about 3 times each summer- I will dip my feet into the water 195 more times.


Do one for yourself- What is one calculation that surprised you?

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  • Macy Volpe

    Wow this is incredible, and really makes me think. Thankfully we live in the same city, so we should see each other more often…we should do this thing more than once a month! I also think that North Carolina should be on your list 😉

  • Katie Hutchinson

    This post made me feel really sad – like shit, I’m almost 30, so I’m a third of the way done here, and it went by so quickly and I have so much more I want to do. Makes me want to create a list like you have of things I want to experience and accomplish.

    It does make you realize you need to make more of an effort with family specially. My parents are 45 minutes and we don’t even see eachother once a month, so it’s something we all need to work on. For Christmas, my mom and sister and I all got eachother fun things to do together (i.e paint night, pottery painting, etc.) without planning it so clearly we all want to do better. Now that we are all off on weekends, I kind of want to institute a Sunday dinner! I love families that have things like that that they see as kind of mandatory. :)

  • Laura Powell

    Yes yes yes to everything in this post. Believe it or not I think about this all the time and while it is really sad and really hard to come to terms with, it is so SO important to realize. My New Years resolution last year was based entirely on this topic. I wanted to make more time to see family and friends and be more intentional with the time that I spent with them. I absolutely love that you shared this and even though it made me tear up reading your post, it was a great reminder for me. Love you Meg! <3

  • Annie

    Wow. That post you linked to is so depressing…but a wake up call. It’s crazy how short life is. I live 5 minutes from my childhood home but I still relate to feeling like I should have told my mom to sit down so I could help her out or spent more time with my dad, working in the garage, even though I hate it and he loves it. This post was so eye opening for me. Woah. Thanks for sharing, girl!